I think the recovery process comes in stages. In looking back, I don’t remember all of them. My last post was about being in the present moment. That too, is a process. Some moments I’m present, on track and living in gratitude. Others not so much. I think it also has to do with the stages in your life. In early sobriety, I was on an emotional roller coaster. Not having alcohol or other substances to block the emotions made it a very painful. I was grieving something I had been relying on for 39 years.
I just read We are the Luckiest by Laura McKowan.
It brought me back to when I was new. I sometimes forget about many of the emotions until I read about them or hear another person’s experience shared at meetings. The book was a very real reminder for me. Early on, I do remember staring at the slogans at meetings, Don’t Drink, Keep Coming, etc. and that was the best I could do.
This quote from Laura McKowan was so impactful to me “Sobriety forced a closeness to myself and to life that was at first excruciating. It burned, but in the ashes from burning all the things I was not, I found her, I found me. And then I could finally be found by others.”
I had been running from myself for 39 years, I didn’t know who I was. There were so many versions of me, and I could not continue this destructive way of life. One night I was very drunk and I finally said it, “I must be an alcoholic” and we all know once we admit that to ourselves and another person, you can’t take it back.
I have found myself through the pain, my commitment to the 12 steps of AA and Peer Recovery. I am becoming the woman I was meant to be and through this process I am “finally being found by others”. In recovery we are discovered.
Where are you in your process?